Well, which one are you? Simply, when immersed in conversation, do you do all the talking, or are you the designated listener. I’ve been in many conversations where I had no choice but to be the listener. It’s not that I had nothing to say. It was the fact that I couldn’t get a word in edgewise, or talked over. Damn, I hate being talked over! I really do. I am usually the listener, but when I do speak, it is because I have something to say. And it pisses me off to be abruptly cut off by someone in mid yack, who thinks their thought should overpower mine!
Everybody has been spoken over to at some time in their lives, but I bet not one of them appreciated it. Listeners are just as bad. They look like they are following the conversation at the time, but their minds are somewhere else. The talker gets frustrated with the listener for not saying anything, the listener says they heard every word, and the talk over you speaker carries the conversation on by himself, or herself.
So, again, I ask.. which one are you?
And people wonder why conversation is dead!
I’m middle of the road. I can be talkative but I also know when to shut my mouth and listen. When I’m trying to learn something about someone, I keep the lips shut.
interesting post – i understand where you are coming from. you seem to be much like myself in-so-far as the speaking only when something certainly needs to be said and frustrated that once you do speak your ideas may be cast aside – check out my post, http://sensiway.wordpress.com/tag/listen-or-hear/ , may be there is some useful info, may be not haha. keep up the bloggin!
Definitely true. I don’t interrupt anyone and if I do I try to catch myself. Accept like you said when you get that one that just thinks their better or something then I just love to shove the topic matter right back in there face and I can be very dominate if you piss me off. lol, but overall I will afford you the same courteousy’s you afford me. Thanks for the comment keep up the good writing I have not yet once read a post that I didn’t like!
it depends on who i’m talking to. but usually…i’m both. most of my friends…and my husband…are equal opportunists when it comes to conversation. personally, i’m a great listener but i’m a great talker as well!!