Almost every time I log on to an online dating site, I seem to see the same recurring question line from the female members. That being, “Are there any good men left?” I believe the answer is a big YES, there are! Now everybody has probably gotten burned in a relation. It’s just one of those things that occur in that thing we call, life.
Mostly, it is as a result of a bad past relationship. Perhaps the guy didn’t have money (a very common gripe with women) as they like to feel financially secure, perhaps he didn’t hold the door open for her (another common gripe), thereby failing in chivalry. Oh jeez, execute them right now!
But it is not always the males fault either. We would love to give you everything you want, but it is not always possible to do so. On ther other hand, why do all the women on these sites want to be treated like the princesses they think they are, or the one time the guy doesn’t hold the door open because may be something other than her was on his mind, he is instantly labeled.
Women seem way too quick to judge an individual man, let alone all men. Maybe when they stop believing that they are ultra special creatures to whom the guy has to be worthy, they will get more out of the relationship. Remember the saying, the more you want, the less you’ll get, and the same goes vice versa. So, to you ladies, there is something for you to think about!
Relationships are give and take. If you are willing to break up with somebody because they don’t have money or don’t hold a door … well …
It’s not so much about being given everything I want, but about a guy being present in a relationship. A relating-ship. I’m just beginning to dip my toes in the dating thing again at the young age of 44, and sometimes it just feels like my personality, my “me,” is just some annoying obstacle for a guy to get around to get sex.
Now I know guys are kinda hard-wired for it, and I don’t blame them for it exactly… I realize it’s part of the game and attraction. But still, it’s frustrating to talk to someone who’s all nice and polite for as long as they can stand it… and then suddenly get some “so are you wearing panties?” line out of the blue. I mean what the… ?
So yes, I do think a guy needs to worthy to some degree. I’m not a princess, I don’t expect royals and riches or to be pampered. But I do want to be seen, even to be adored for all of me, the package deal, lol…
Nice post! Keep it real.I have looked over your blog a few times and I love it.