Well, she did it! She said she was going to, but being a skeptic, I didn’t believe her. No, not Kim Kardashian, but my girl! And I am so pleased she did so. It started off a month ago, during dinner. She nonchalantly asked me, would you love me as a blonde? I told her I would love her with any color hair (except green, blue, or pink!) and didn’t think any more about it. Less than a week later, she called me on the cell. There was trepidation in her voice I could tell. I asked her what was wrong upon which she answered, “I hope you like a blonde”! That got me thinking, gee, would it make any difference to me? It’s not my hair, it’s hers to do whatever she likes to it. “Oh, and I got it cut short.. very short” too. You have to understand, she had long, dark brown hair flowing half way down her back. That was the only way I knew her. Now I started getting nervous about it!

Initially, all that came out of my mouth was, “How short”? “Very short” was her reply. I actually gasped at the thought! I think the shock of that got to me. “So, when are you coming over to see it? How about…now“! I said alright and headed out to her house. I convinced myself that if I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t say so figuring it would grow back in time and she could always dye it back.

I get to her house, actually feeling anxious as to “who” will welcome me. My brain had a mindset of long dark hair and I was about to tread on new grounds with her. The world of blondeness! So, I sheepishly knock on the door, take a deep breath, and close my eyes! The door opens, she laughs at my scrunched up face and closed eyes, and gives me a kiss.
It was during that kiss that I opened my eyes, and I’m so glad I did! She looked great, no, better than great, she looked fabulous! I couldn’t believe my eyes! She glowed with her sunny new color and short doo. The amazing thing was it boosted her confidence and my..err…it boosted us both!. She became assertive, super sexy and sultry, happy with herself. I was very happy with herself too! May be it is true that blondes do have more fun.

So, what do you think ?
Hey baby, No time to think. Lets hit the sheets !

As an individual with a unique perspective, I have noticed one particular thing reading profiles on online dating sites. Most everyone wants to start a relationship, be it a fling or long term relationship. But, the one thing that stands out in many profiles is the statement
“I want to be me, take me as I am”. Sound familiar?

Well, the truth is, it is a statement easier said than done in a relationship. Why? Because women like to try changing the men they are with. They are never happy with something we do. Or, it is a malevolent gene that surfaces in the early stages of a relationship. And they are not aware of themselves doing it…yeah right !! Lol.

This action will always stress out the guy. He will not be at ease with himself, especially when with his girl. The girl, being an astute creature, picks up on the guys behavior, asking “What’s wrong” .. duh!

Women are less likely to feel this way. They are too caught up with being spoiled and taken care of. They are primarily the instigators. So I say this to all of you women out there…You’ll get more flies with honey than you will with vinegar!
Think about it!

Some women may call it therapy, some may call it addiction, but it is nothing more than them being outright shop-a-holics! While it is true that they feel somewhat relaxed (therapy) or get a high (addiction) from it, that is just plain old rationalization.

What I can not fathom, for the life of me, is why the great need or desire for it! I mean, how many pairs of shoes or handbags, or what evers do you women need?

I understand the concept, (partially), of wishing to be fashionably in fashion, and I do understand it makes sense, if you need an item on sale, to purchase it. But there has to be a point where it becomes overdone! I really don’t think any woman would ever admit to that though!

So call it what you may, and convince yourself of it, it’s still just good old SHOPPING!

Why is it both guys and girls always look for each other while maintaining a wolf pack mentality? The answer is, it is safer!
Safer, maybe, but your chances of meeting are reduced by a factor of who you are with. Women are notorious for traveling with an entourage. Remember this fact ladies, men are visually hardwired
If they are the support system for one of the girls, bottom line is they better not be prettier than she, or her chances of a connection wane.
The same logic holds true for men, but to a lesser degree.

People always go for the tried and proven places and methods to find
one another, be it a bar, mall, or social event, what ever.
I have found a different approach to this by simply doing the obvious.
I eat alone! It sounds all to simple and lackluster but it works.
There is no entourage of people around me so, by percentage, my chances go up! I usually do this during lunchtime, and at restaurants close to busy office buildings, near where I work.

The lunch crowd seems to bring the most amount of women, and it is a short period of time, so your timing is critical. You must use that time in the best way possible. After two or three times to the same place at the same time, you get to know the “regulars” who frequent that establishment. You also get a good idea of who is single, married, or possibly on the prowl, as they do too !

I make it a point to smile and say hello to the regular females that I feel an attraction to. Soon, I’m having lunch with them, having conversations with them, and see where it could possibly lead.
If a connection doesn’t happen then…. I wanted lunch anyways ! Lol

Last night was boys night out. It is our gathering of only male friends, both married and single, who get together once a month for socializing, womanizing, and getting snookered! What we noticed was that women do the same thing. Not surprising though! What was funny was the way intoxicated women acted in public!

At the bar we went to, there were a group of women in their mid 40’s, who were having their girls night out. Within minutes of their arrival, we knew them to be mostly married, if you know what I mean!
The more they drank, the funnier and louder they got.

By their third round, they were totally smashed, and singing to the entire bar. By their fourth round, they were falling off the barstools, with one on the floor, and seemingly content to be there!
She was the funniest lush I ever encountered. She was also the loudest of the group and the most flirtatious.

What sticks in my mind most about this night out was one saying that she screamed out to the entire bar:
I’m married.. I drink triples till I see doubles, and I act like I’m single!
They were truly a lush-ous group of gals!

What is it that women, in general, find most coveted in a man?
His salary, I surmise! Since women need to feel secure, especially in a relationship, financial security is paramount. A mans earning capability (his paycheck) is scrutinized before the “relationship” actually takes hold. Being a male, I don’t particularly like that.. But I can understand that.

Furthermore, women like change. Let me reiterate. Women have a desire to find a man, then spend time trying to change him, or his behavior. Is it the desire to nurture or an evil of always attempting to bend a mans will to feed her wants and needs? The malleability or hammering a man to her desired shape. Is it to feed her ego or to help I wonder.

Women are thought to be the weaker, fairer sex of the genders.
They are certainly the most dangerous, conniving, and devious species with a capacity for attempting to break a mans will!
We males know that, try to accept that fact, and sometimes revolt!
But they do get the gold medal for trying!

No, not the Doublemint gum commercial, but the Twins. Every mans fantasy, I’m sure. My mind wanders to one of the Austin Powers movies, where he is confronted (and comforted!) by twin oriental gals. How great would it be to have the opportunity to date a brace of twins! It sure would fulfill one of my fantasies, a major one at that! I wonder if I could handle it. That I don’t know, but I sure would love to give it a try if presented with the opportunity!

These are probably dreams (or nightmares). They exist only in my fantasy where they are fulfilling (duh!), outrageous, and remain as my ultimate fantasy, where they probably belong. I am curious as to whether anyone has ever actually had the opportunity to live this fantasy, and if so, has was it. This dirty old man wants to know!

I have gone out with numerous single women, many of whom I have met through the wonders of modern technology. The World Wide Web and its numerous venues for online dating and more recently a miss directed text message in which I was able to give some wonderful dating advice to a young woman; (who then had little problem with texting me her photo), is a great method of initially meeting people.

There is however one fly in the proverbially Internet dating ointment, you cannot tell an individual’s personal hygiene habits from behind a computer screen! There are many things that may be revealed in a real life encounter that modern technology cannot easily pick up, even on the best flat screen computer monitor. I mean really, I understand that plucking out protruding nose hairs is time consuming work, but there are just some things that are worth the effort. The sense of smell, is something so vital to really getting to know someone, and until smellivision is discovered, it’s a crap shoot until that first in person meeting.

Have you ever danced with a woman to a slow, classic beat, held her hand tight in yours and then took a long deep smell of her hair? This can be one of the most erotic moments on a date. Now picture that same scenario, but when you take her hand in yours her nails look like she uses the metal grinder at the local auto repair shop for manicures, and that scent in her hair is actually residue from her morning job at the Fulton fish market! These observations are not meant to upset anyone, they are merely pet peeves of mine.

I guess the reason I am so concerned about online dating and personal hygiene, is because I feel it’s misrepresenting yourself if you come off over the Internet as suave and sophisticated, yet you believe taking a shower is optional, not mandatory. If you don’t take pride in your overall appearance and cleanliness, I wonder what else in your life do you not care much about. It a lot like the girl who beat me out for valedictorian in high school, Mary Jane Stemkowski, whose armpits smelled so bad that to this day I still believe the teachers gave her A’s for not raising her hand in class. And please, do not misconstrue, this goes equally for men!!

The other day, I was watching these 2 teenage girls around 18-19 years old talking a whole lot of crap to a guy in his low 20’s. They were strutting their stuff, all decked out with a hell of a lot of makeup on, brazenly “tormenting” this guy with sexual innuendoes. “I can do this to you, I can do that to you. I can be the best you ever had“ !! That one was my favorite. Now mind you I wasn’t eavesdropping…oh YES I was! It was just too funny to leave and miss that ranting. Lol So the guy is acting quite normal, until one of the girls starts touching him seductively, and then starts kissing him, with brief interludes of more ranting.

The guy is really cool about what’s happening, and realizes the girl is probably either doing this on a dare, is drunk, or just plain horny. I say this for he grabs her with one hand, starts lip locking on her, and grabs her butt with his other hand. The girl is no longer taking the dominant stance, and turned beet red instantly as she tried to back off. She was apparently scared and surprised by his actions.

I heard her say, in what sounded like a frightened voice, “I didn’t mean for this to happen” whereas the guy merely said, “You talked the talk, but you can’t walk the walk”! He acted with dignity, hell he was cool! And the girls made a quick exit, as he laughed intensely. Who was goofing on who, I wondered. Anyway, seeing that made my day! lol

If you have a pet, lets say a dog, and you raise him or her from a puppy, you try to train them in a manner you deem fit, hopefully eliminating unwanted behaviors. So it should be when starting in a new relationship. I’m not talking about using a choker or shock collar, or even a leash (unless you are both adults and into it! Lol) In a new relationship, you both start as tabula rasa or blank slate. It is now the perfect opportunity to learn, and understand the wants and needs of the other. In other words, you both get to train each other. It really isn’t too hard to do. Amazing what you can do with a rolled up newspaper! Lol kidding.

Unlike Freudian classical condition (the shock collar!), sorry but I couldn’t resist, the use of operant conditioning works very well on emerging relationships. Basically, you reward good behavior, a form of positive reinforcement. The objective is to get the other to know what is expected, desired, and wanted of them. It might sound a bit crazy, but when each party concerned is aware of this from the beginning, it could only help to benefit the relationship in a good, healthy, honest way.
But if that doesn’t work, a good shocker and short leash may have to suffice! lol