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I have friends who run a major dating website. Although I am “off the market” and in a “stable relationship”, when we meet, topics of relationships almost always pop up in our conversation. First of all, the readers have to understand that this group of us range in age from the 40’s to late 50’s, and so we see things from an older perspective and point of view.

For as long as Snow White and Cinderella have been seen by countless girls around the world, whether read, seen on TV or in the movies, Prince Charming has been their idol and when they grow up, is what they desire for themselves in a relationship. He is reported to be handsome, a vanquisher of evil doings, and chivalrous to boot. Girls, ladies… this is a make believe character! He was created to exemplify what a woman desires; a good looking man, one who could protect her, care for her, make her feel loved, and feel like a princess.

How is it that younger women truly believe that this is reality in modern times? How many times have you read a female’s profile on a dating website, and seen the famous quote “ I want to be treated like the princess I am”, or “Are there any real men left out there “, “Is chivalry a lost art“! First of all, what makes you believe you are a princess to be spoiled, to deserve to sit on your butt and do nothing for yourself but have others do it for you? These are the daddy’s little girls who grew up so spoiled that they don’t know or have the ability to do anything on their own. It’s quite pathetic if you think about it.

As for “are there any real men out there”, well, they are but no man puts up with that crap for any length of time. Relationships work best if they are given 100% from each side, and spoiling your girl is fine if that is what you wish to do. It is a different set of circumstances when it is expected. As far as chivalry, no, it is not a lost art. This was the only “grievance” that we agreed fully with the ladies. It really isn’t chivalry. Opening a door for or seating a lady is simple courtesy and all men should do it for that reason. So, we then realized that the only solution for these web princesses is to find themselves a real sugar daddy.


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A picture may be worth a thousand words but in the case of online dating quite often it pays to be deaf! The majority of people who place profiles on the various dating sites found on the Internet are honest, and have the best of intentions, however there are those that try to try to get us to believe that ‘their picture was only taken last year’. Last year, probably not, most of the time last century may be a bit closer. Again, this is not the majority of people I meet, but there are those out there who truly test the limits. There is nothing that distresses more than showing up at Starbuck’s or another little café in anticipation of a real life encounter with a lovely lady whom I have been getting to know through the Internet. Pictures are emailed back and forth, there are numerous Instant Messages and perhaps even a series of phone calls leading up to the actual encounter. The tension builds as I wait patiently for that twenty-plus year old medical student from Coconut Grove, what shows up is a bit different from what I expected.

When someone tells me they are twenty plus years old, I would expect someone in their mid to late 20’s, not some one who is twenty plus an additional twenty years old. If I wanted someone in their forties I would have searched for one. And as for the medical student part, well I do feel there is a big difference between being in medical school and collecting Medicare! It is amazing to me how these people actually think we won’t notice the differences between what they tell us online and who they actually turn out to be.

We all embellish just a bit when we first meet someone, its only natural to try and present ourselves in the best possible light, but it seems that some of the single women that have showed up in real life are best seen with that light switched off. I have met quite a few attractive women through the online dating sites, and many have been quite a bit beyond my expectations, and for this reason I still search the quality themed sites on the Internet. So, if you are preparing to meet that special someone you have been communicating with for a while, be sure to ask for current pictures before the actual meeting and above all, have an exit strategy in place. If she tells you she will be arriving in a 1955 classic corvette, make sure she is not the original owner!

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Is it just me, or are both men and women putting more and more pictures on their online dating profiles, as either couples, or multiple girl pictures? It is beginning to seem that way to me, at least! I don’t think it is really in the best interest of the girls to post pictures of themselves with their girlfriends, especially if they are pretty, or have pictures of themselves with past (or present boyfriends). I know that I myself have skipped over these profiles without hesitation as I feel that this girl will have some baggage that I don’t want to have to deal with!

Also, guys are visual creatures, and at the first sight of a girl and guy picture, they are turned off. It’s a shame though! But it happens. I wonder if it is the same for women. When a woman browses through profiles looking for a guy, and sees one with his past (or present) girlfriend, does she react the same. Is it a bit of a turn-off? I really feel that the pictures used in the online dating profile should be one with only YOU in it, maybe with a nice background. But definitely not a group shot. After all, you are to a big degree selling yourself. So, sell yourself as an individual, and not as a group.

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