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To that question posed, I answer with an emphatic YES. I am not knowledgeable in the art of financial security, but I know a bit about emotional security. I see relationships as an investment in the futures (a pun) of two people who have formed a bond (another pun), which hopefully will accrue in value (oy!) until it reaches maturity (pretty cheesy, huh!). I won’t get in to the return on investment (self explanatory!).
But relationships, that is, positive relationships, take time. They don’t happen overnight. If they do, it more than likely is a case of lust. I am a firm believer that for a good relationship to grow and mature, and maintain strong dividends, it has to be equal shares put in by both investors. That investment in a partnership can not be 50/50, instead it must continually be at an index of 100/100. This is an equitable and equal partnership.
While we always wish for a positive relationship, many factors have an affect such as availability, date of maturity versus expenditure, and being patient during periodic lulls in the market. Not everyone has the stamina to hold on to the bond during hard times, and walk away causing a lack of equity. It is those people who have the foresight to make things better, and stay the course under all circumstance, are the ones who profit the greatest.




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Alone Time

Relationships are great, especially when they are built upon love, desire and trust. You spend a lot of time with your significant other, go everywhere together, do everything together, and that is terrific and normal in a relationship. But even in the best relationships, each individual needs some “alone time” and that might be a crucial element in keeping the relations good and healthy.
Both guys and girls should encourage this time for each other. How many times have you wanted a “just the girls” night out, or the guys wanting to just hang with the boys? Or it can be as simple as saying to your partner, I want some “Me time”. If there is trust in each other, no doubts will occur in either’s mind. There would be no reason for it. In fact, it would probably make the bond even stronger, as both parties would get that “ball and chain” feeling. Everybody needs and deserves some alone time. It’s not a bad thing, it doesn’t mean something is wrong. People are born as individuals and have certain needs. Relationships are the bond between two people, so what is good for one also applies to the other.


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I have friends who run a major dating website. Although I am “off the market” and in a “stable relationship”, when we meet, topics of relationships almost always pop up in our conversation. First of all, the readers have to understand that this group of us range in age from the 40’s to late 50’s, and so we see things from an older perspective and point of view.

For as long as Snow White and Cinderella have been seen by countless girls around the world, whether read, seen on TV or in the movies, Prince Charming has been their idol and when they grow up, is what they desire for themselves in a relationship. He is reported to be handsome, a vanquisher of evil doings, and chivalrous to boot. Girls, ladies… this is a make believe character! He was created to exemplify what a woman desires; a good looking man, one who could protect her, care for her, make her feel loved, and feel like a princess.

How is it that younger women truly believe that this is reality in modern times? How many times have you read a female’s profile on a dating website, and seen the famous quote “ I want to be treated like the princess I am”, or “Are there any real men left out there “, “Is chivalry a lost art“! First of all, what makes you believe you are a princess to be spoiled, to deserve to sit on your butt and do nothing for yourself but have others do it for you? These are the daddy’s little girls who grew up so spoiled that they don’t know or have the ability to do anything on their own. It’s quite pathetic if you think about it.

As for “are there any real men out there”, well, they are but no man puts up with that crap for any length of time. Relationships work best if they are given 100% from each side, and spoiling your girl is fine if that is what you wish to do. It is a different set of circumstances when it is expected. As far as chivalry, no, it is not a lost art. This was the only “grievance” that we agreed fully with the ladies. It really isn’t chivalry. Opening a door for or seating a lady is simple courtesy and all men should do it for that reason. So, we then realized that the only solution for these web princesses is to find themselves a real sugar daddy.

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Boys will be boys and so it came as no revelation that Tiger Woods would be given the title of sugar daddy as more and more dirt was published about his relationships. The man has an addiction for the ladies, although married to a beautiful former model.

As it turns out, Tiger apparently paid his bevy of sugar babes a monthly allowance to keep them happy (actually to keep quiet). Hey, it’s like paying a prostitute only they get paid to leave! Tiger is said to have been wiring the babes thousands of dollars in to their banks. Now that is a dumb and traceable move on his part. Tiger, do you know the word DISCRETION? I bet you do now!

Alright, so he is somewhat handsome, he’s internationally known, and if he wasn’t before, he is certainly is now, oh, and he’s mega-rich to boot. So why not a sugar daddy be. I don’t know or care about his married life, but the fact that he is a sugar daddy doesn’t surprise me in the slightest. So what is a sugardaddy but a wealthy, affluent gentleman who gives expensive gifts, monthly allowances, pays the rent, or whatever they mutually agree upon, in return for the sugarbabe to be his eye candy, look good on the arm, and satisfy those male urges.

While I am not condoning his actions as a married man, I am certainly not shocked by it, though most sugar daddies have one babe at a time. I am shocked that discretion is not a word in Tiger’s vocabulary.

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Will You Be My Valentine

Valentine’s Day 2010 went off without a hitch. No squabbles, no fights, no massacre! A pleasant day spent with a pleasant person, lol. We started the day going out for breakfast, then a long walk along the beach with gentle waves as romantic background music. For the afternoon, we decided to hangout at her house. I helped her clean up the kitchen dishes, I helped with the laundry, and even folded her towels. I was attentive to her needs, and she really appreciated it. She responded by giving me the most sensual, soothing, and roughest massage that these old bones have ever witnessed. I was in relaxed muscle heaven.

Later that evening, I suggested we go out for a nice dinner. She sighed that what she would really wish is to make us a nice meal but unfortunately, she can’t cook! However, I most certainly can. So when I said that I would cook a fantastic meal, complete with wine, she was in love. What I found is that, although the proverbial box of chocolates, flowers and card is the norm for most guys, catering to your girl and doing for her means more than anything. Making it her day made her feel loved, and I enjoyed the day too!
However, I am happy that V-D marks the end of the relationship silly season.

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People still don’t get it! Some friends of mine run a very successful dating site and his number one complaint is the type and quality of the photos that his members upload to the site. He runs a well organized website and wants members to succeed in their quest for love and a relationship. But it is up to the members to want to make it happen.

All too often the same pattern emerges. First of all, you are looking to make a connection, so why use pictures of you and your friends in the photos you upload? A good dating site has employees who then have to crop out the other people resulting in an inferior photo. Since most sites allow 3 photos, the rule of thumb is use a close-up shot as your primary pic, followed by a full length, and ending with perhaps you in a vacation like setting. In all photos, show your face, don’t use masks, blackouts, or large sunglasses. You are trying to make a good visual representation of yourself. And try to avoid those bathroom mirror self portraits with your cellphone’s camera. Use a real camera, and have someone take your pix. That will go a long ways online! Girls, understand that guys are visual creatures, so a good pic is essential. And not one with your ex boyfriend as that is a major turnoff.

For the guys, yes, your car looks terrific, but you want a date with a girl, not Dale Earnhardt Jr. So many photos are submitted with full length car pix, that the guy looks tiny. Guys, you too are representing yourself, not the car. These same rules apply for men as well as women, that being, 1-face shot, 2-full length, and 3-scenic shot. And if you are going to submit a photo with your shirt off, you better have a good build, or women will just see that beer belly.

It all comes down to this…you get out what you put in to it.

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Well, this is going to be a depressing New Years Eve spent with me, myself, and I. Hey, does that count as 3? My girlfriend got called to do a photo op in Hawaii, and I couldn’t get away to be with her due to prior commitments. I thought that the older one gets, the less importance New Years Eve would have. But, this is not the case for me. May be because we kind of made plans, and I did know that she might get called and have to leave at a moments notice, but still… I wanna go to Hawaii too! As I type out this blog, I am also trying to book a plane flight to be there while she is there and surprise her.

So, now is my opportunity for thinking about resolutions to be made for the upcoming New Year. I’ve attained affluence (No smarties, that’s flatulence), been around the world, and have all my boy toys. I want health and serenity. Then again, who doesn’t? Guess I’ll settle for Hawaii.

It’s been a year of writing this blog, and so to all of those who have read and commented on it… I wish you all a Happy, Healthy, and Prosperous New Year!

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