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As much as alternate relationship lifestyles are becoming more and more commonplace and accepted in today’s society, gold diggers and sugar daddy’s have survived. In the present state of our economy, it has emerged stronger than ever. It might even be a product of economy. In the time of the California Gold Rush, circa 1800’s, the men packed up all they had and headed out west to seek their fortune, many times leaving their wives or family behind. It was not easy times, but the possibility of striking it rich was a distinct possibility. The men were actual gold diggers, that is, miners, panning for gold. It was those women who hung around the miners (for their money, obviously), that were coined gold diggers. In those days, times were rough for both men and women. People left everything, packed up, and headed out west to strike it rich! Many did, and like nowadays, where there is a rich man, there will be some shrewd, conniving female who wants a piece of it! And then again, in those days, women were more of a beauty depreciating asset, so they struck when the iron was hot, so to speak.

The modern definition of a gold digger is a woman who associates with or marries a rich man in order to get valuables from him through gifts or a divorce settlement. But the gold digger scenario is not a relationship, per se. It is a one sided affair specifically generated by the female to snare the rich male, to fleece him of his wealth for her own. As long as there are women in the world, a proportion of them will be strictly out for themselves. They couldn’t care less for the man, as long as he showers her with wealth and gifts, and wouldn’t hesitate to leave him the minute she gets cut off. She sees the man as a male ATM machine, and what’s in it for her.

Enter the Sugar daddy. This is a mutual relationship between a rich older man and a woman, usually a younger woman at that. The term sugar daddy is a modern variant of the word daddy. Daddy describing the age difference between the couple, and prefacing it with sugar, which is the gifts given. Hence the name, Sugar daddy! So, the modern definition of sugar daddy is that of a wealthy, usually older man who gives expensive gifts to someone much younger in return for companionship or sexual favors.


The biggest difference between a gold digger “relationship” and that of a sugar daddy is that, in the sugar daddy relationship, it is mutually beneficial to both parties concerned. The usually older man has wealth, and affluence which affords him all the luxuries, that life has to offer. A very attractive thing for a younger woman to experience. But sugar daddies have discriminating tastes. They will not be seen with a plain, ordinary, or below average girl. The sugar babe is almost always a young knockout, his eye and arm candy. She will always turn heads in a crowd! And she knows this to be true. She loves the lavish lifestyle, and is usually of higher maintenance than a male her age could ever afford. They have a unique, mutually beneficial relationship, one in which both sides know their roles, and in which they are both happy! In the true sugar daddy lifestyle, it is a totally win-win situation, as opposed to the gold digger who is interested in only her!


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Thompson 2008

Much has been written on the subject of older, mature men dating younger women. Putting aside, for the moment, the age gap difference between the genders, both can enjoy the benefits that can arise from such a relationship.

Love transcends all boundaries, so why not see it simply as ageless love. Sure, every senior male would enjoy immensely, that trophy date, that piece of eye candy hanging on to his arm, listening to every word he speaks. He is instantly revitalized, seen by his peers as a stud, the ultimate seducer. He, by proxy of his age, is for the most part, secure emotionally and financially, as well as having a wealth of life experiences ranging from childhood through his induction in to A.A.R.P.!


If he happens to be an elder gent who has attained affluence during his lifetime, and has the finances and connections to make a younger woman happy, or help her in her career, he is a sugardaddy. That does not make him a lech, or pervert. Not by any means, whatsoever! The sugardaddy type of relationship is one of giving what one has for something he wants. The man has the resources, the means to provide for the younger lady. He can spoil her, wine and dine at the fanciest of restaurants, travel to far off exotic locales. This something every young female would love. Chances are very high that younger guys could never afford to provide such experiences. He may even become her mentor. By mentor, I mean have the ways and means of advancing their careers, with only a modicum of effort.

It is truly a mutually beneficial relationship. One in which everyone wins. The older man feels his oats again, he gets about with her companionship, it boosts his morale. The younger woman gets what she usually can’t get from dating her contemporaries, luxury, excitement, travel, and all the spoils. This is not a novelty, for those in this type of relationship, it is reality!

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