Posts Tagged ‘profiles’


Is it just me, or are both men and women putting more and more pictures on their online dating profiles, as either couples, or multiple girl pictures? It is beginning to seem that way to me, at least! I don’t think it is really in the best interest of the girls to post pictures of themselves with their girlfriends, especially if they are pretty, or have pictures of themselves with past (or present boyfriends). I know that I myself have skipped over these profiles without hesitation as I feel that this girl will have some baggage that I don’t want to have to deal with!

Also, guys are visual creatures, and at the first sight of a girl and guy picture, they are turned off. It’s a shame though! But it happens. I wonder if it is the same for women. When a woman browses through profiles looking for a guy, and sees one with his past (or present) girlfriend, does she react the same. Is it a bit of a turn-off? I really feel that the pictures used in the online dating profile should be one with only YOU in it, maybe with a nice background. But definitely not a group shot. After all, you are to a big degree selling yourself. So, sell yourself as an individual, and not as a group.


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To all of you readers out there in the blogosphere, the ones who have joined online dating sites, now or in the past, a question posed to you. How many of you, male or female, have told the truth on their profiles, or just slightly embellished on it, or outright embellished your profile to the point that it isn’t even you? That many !! I’m not really that surprised. Let’s face it, this is cyberspace, where you can be “all that you can be” or be “all that you want to portray yourself to be”. The guys always seem to write in their profiles of how physical they are (yet they send photos with their bellies hanging out), jobs they don’t possess, or salaries they only wish for! OK, the male logic is that the women will think, hey, I have a good job, am financially secure, so I’m perceived as stable, and single.

The women are no better than the men in regards to their profiles. Their pictures are usually 5 years old or older with the always obligatory bathroom mirror shot, to hide the fact that they have aged (well, in my case, the upper 40 and lower 50 year olds) have met with the pull of gravity! To the female psyche, her older photos make her believe she will be more desirable to the viewing public. She’s right also! Except that once we get past the online hype, and have to meet on a physical playing ground, all the embellished BS will quickly fade to obscurity. Tell the truth on your online profiles, and meet the one who whom you can be honest with from the beginning. Those are the relationships that endure!

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