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To that question posed, I answer with an emphatic YES. I am not knowledgeable in the art of financial security, but I know a bit about emotional security. I see relationships as an investment in the futures (a pun) of two people who have formed a bond (another pun), which hopefully will accrue in value (oy!) until it reaches maturity (pretty cheesy, huh!). I won’t get in to the return on investment (self explanatory!).
But relationships, that is, positive relationships, take time. They don’t happen overnight. If they do, it more than likely is a case of lust. I am a firm believer that for a good relationship to grow and mature, and maintain strong dividends, it has to be equal shares put in by both investors. That investment in a partnership can not be 50/50, instead it must continually be at an index of 100/100. This is an equitable and equal partnership.
While we always wish for a positive relationship, many factors have an affect such as availability, date of maturity versus expenditure, and being patient during periodic lulls in the market. Not everyone has the stamina to hold on to the bond during hard times, and walk away causing a lack of equity. It is those people who have the foresight to make things better, and stay the course under all circumstance, are the ones who profit the greatest.




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I have friends who run a major dating website. Although I am “off the market” and in a “stable relationship”, when we meet, topics of relationships almost always pop up in our conversation. First of all, the readers have to understand that this group of us range in age from the 40’s to late 50’s, and so we see things from an older perspective and point of view.

For as long as Snow White and Cinderella have been seen by countless girls around the world, whether read, seen on TV or in the movies, Prince Charming has been their idol and when they grow up, is what they desire for themselves in a relationship. He is reported to be handsome, a vanquisher of evil doings, and chivalrous to boot. Girls, ladies… this is a make believe character! He was created to exemplify what a woman desires; a good looking man, one who could protect her, care for her, make her feel loved, and feel like a princess.

How is it that younger women truly believe that this is reality in modern times? How many times have you read a female’s profile on a dating website, and seen the famous quote “ I want to be treated like the princess I am”, or “Are there any real men left out there “, “Is chivalry a lost art“! First of all, what makes you believe you are a princess to be spoiled, to deserve to sit on your butt and do nothing for yourself but have others do it for you? These are the daddy’s little girls who grew up so spoiled that they don’t know or have the ability to do anything on their own. It’s quite pathetic if you think about it.

As for “are there any real men out there”, well, they are but no man puts up with that crap for any length of time. Relationships work best if they are given 100% from each side, and spoiling your girl is fine if that is what you wish to do. It is a different set of circumstances when it is expected. As far as chivalry, no, it is not a lost art. This was the only “grievance” that we agreed fully with the ladies. It really isn’t chivalry. Opening a door for or seating a lady is simple courtesy and all men should do it for that reason. So, we then realized that the only solution for these web princesses is to find themselves a real sugar daddy.

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Boys will be boys and so it came as no revelation that Tiger Woods would be given the title of sugar daddy as more and more dirt was published about his relationships. The man has an addiction for the ladies, although married to a beautiful former model.

As it turns out, Tiger apparently paid his bevy of sugar babes a monthly allowance to keep them happy (actually to keep quiet). Hey, it’s like paying a prostitute only they get paid to leave! Tiger is said to have been wiring the babes thousands of dollars in to their banks. Now that is a dumb and traceable move on his part. Tiger, do you know the word DISCRETION? I bet you do now!

Alright, so he is somewhat handsome, he’s internationally known, and if he wasn’t before, he is certainly is now, oh, and he’s mega-rich to boot. So why not a sugar daddy be. I don’t know or care about his married life, but the fact that he is a sugar daddy doesn’t surprise me in the slightest. So what is a sugardaddy but a wealthy, affluent gentleman who gives expensive gifts, monthly allowances, pays the rent, or whatever they mutually agree upon, in return for the sugarbabe to be his eye candy, look good on the arm, and satisfy those male urges.

While I am not condoning his actions as a married man, I am certainly not shocked by it, though most sugar daddies have one babe at a time. I am shocked that discretion is not a word in Tiger’s vocabulary.

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I happen to find that particular statement to, at times, be true, as many soccer moms are quite hot. So, what exactly are soccer moms? The answer is simply this; she is usually a middle class woman around 35 to 45 years of age, living a wealthy suburban lifestyle, and who spend much of her time driving her school age children to and from sporting events in their new Land Rover SUV‘s. It doesn’t have to be soccer, but that is where the phrase took off in popularity and has stuck.

I happen to be a single, middle aged guy who had the opportunity to spend time with a buddy at a soccer game in which his tween daughter was playing. To confess, I was never much of a soccer fan, as I did not grow up around the sport, but I do have an eye for attractive ladies. Right off the bat was 3 or 4 gorgeous moms pressed up against the chain link fence, rooting for their children with passion. I mean they were really in to the game. I started wondering why they drove and then stay to watch their children play the sport and not their husbands. It seemed a bit odd to me…. at first!

I decided to try a little pick up maneuver and do a little “research”. I proceeded to that fence, right next to those hotties, and started shouting out my friend’s daughter’s name. About 15 minutes later, and with the onslaught of a raspy voice brought on my shouting, one of those soccer moms initiated the conversation by asking, “Which one is your daughter”? I told this beauty standing next to me who I was shouting for and that she wasn’t my daughter, but my niece! OK, little white lie, so sue me! As she watched the game, I found myself watching her! She wasn’t a kid, she was all woman, and a beaut at that, wearing nice designer shorts and top, and boasting a delicious tan.

We started chit chatting and before long she told me that she was divorced because her husband never had time for anything but work. I asked her if it wasn’t for her child playing, was she in to the sport. She actually told me she was a “soccer mom” in those words, and that it was a terrific way to meet guys. I was at first taken back by her comment. Next week, I’m meeting this mom-babe at the next game. I might even start to like the sport. I already know how to dribble! lol

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Well, she did it! She said she was going to, but being a skeptic, I didn’t believe her. No, not Kim Kardashian, but my girl! And I am so pleased she did so. It started off a month ago, during dinner. She nonchalantly asked me, would you love me as a blonde? I told her I would love her with any color hair (except green, blue, or pink!) and didn’t think any more about it. Less than a week later, she called me on the cell. There was trepidation in her voice I could tell. I asked her what was wrong upon which she answered, “I hope you like a blonde”! That got me thinking, gee, would it make any difference to me? It’s not my hair, it’s hers to do whatever she likes to it. “Oh, and I got it cut short.. very short” too. You have to understand, she had long, dark brown hair flowing half way down her back. That was the only way I knew her. Now I started getting nervous about it!

Initially, all that came out of my mouth was, “How short”? “Very short” was her reply. I actually gasped at the thought! I think the shock of that got to me. “So, when are you coming over to see it? How about…now“! I said alright and headed out to her house. I convinced myself that if I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t say so figuring it would grow back in time and she could always dye it back.

I get to her house, actually feeling anxious as to “who” will welcome me. My brain had a mindset of long dark hair and I was about to tread on new grounds with her. The world of blondeness! So, I sheepishly knock on the door, take a deep breath, and close my eyes! The door opens, she laughs at my scrunched up face and closed eyes, and gives me a kiss.
It was during that kiss that I opened my eyes, and I’m so glad I did! She looked great, no, better than great, she looked fabulous! I couldn’t believe my eyes! She glowed with her sunny new color and short doo. The amazing thing was it boosted her confidence and my..err…it boosted us both!. She became assertive, super sexy and sultry, happy with herself. I was very happy with herself too! May be it is true that blondes do have more fun.

So, what do you think ?
Hey baby, No time to think. Lets hit the sheets !

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Social networking has become so very popular in today’s society. Networking sites like Facebook and MySpace and the various blog sites are amongst the most popular. People, unfortunately, put in more information than they should, and many problems can and do occur as a result. This also has a bearing on online dating sites. There is a rise in crime and stalking because individuals just write too darn much about themselves. Remember, this info can be retrieved and viewed by almost anyone with a computer and internet access.

Case in point, I read that a girl was on an online dating site and was emailed by a guy who seemed to show interest in her. Eventually, they met and he turned out to be a creep. But during their date, she told him her true name and phone number, as well as the area she lived. His later emails took a nasty turn, where he started to scare her. It turned out that with the info provided to him, he had all the information he needed. He began to stalk her. He would write emails to her describing the clothes she was wearing. At least she was quick headed. She called the police and he was arrested. Now that example was a bit extreme, but it did happen! In social sites like Facebook and MySpace, people give their whole life history, making it all to easy for evil minded people to prey on them. Come on people, use your head!
Why would you ever put that much personal information on a public site? But people do! And some pay the consequences.

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Almost every time I log on to an online dating site, I seem to see the same recurring question line from the female members. That being, “Are there any good men left?” I believe the answer is a big YES, there are! Now everybody has probably gotten burned in a relation. It’s just one of those things that occur in that thing we call, life.

Mostly, it is as a result of a bad past relationship. Perhaps the guy didn’t have money (a very common gripe with women) as they like to feel financially secure, perhaps he didn’t hold the door open for her (another common gripe), thereby failing in chivalry. Oh jeez, execute them right now!

But it is not always the males fault either. We would love to give you everything you want, but it is not always possible to do so. On ther other hand, why do all the women on these sites want to be treated like the princesses they think they are, or the one time the guy doesn’t hold the door open because may be something other than her was on his mind, he is instantly labeled.

Women seem way too quick to judge an individual man, let alone all men. Maybe when they stop believing that they are ultra special creatures to whom the guy has to be worthy, they will get more out of the relationship. Remember the saying, the more you want, the less you’ll get, and the same goes vice versa. So, to you ladies, there is something for you to think about!

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