Posts Tagged ‘Romance’


Almost every time I log on to an online dating site, I seem to see the same recurring question line from the female members. That being, “Are there any good men left?” I believe the answer is a big YES, there are! Now everybody has probably gotten burned in a relation. It’s just one of those things that occur in that thing we call, life.

Mostly, it is as a result of a bad past relationship. Perhaps the guy didn’t have money (a very common gripe with women) as they like to feel financially secure, perhaps he didn’t hold the door open for her (another common gripe), thereby failing in chivalry. Oh jeez, execute them right now!

But it is not always the males fault either. We would love to give you everything you want, but it is not always possible to do so. On ther other hand, why do all the women on these sites want to be treated like the princesses they think they are, or the one time the guy doesn’t hold the door open because may be something other than her was on his mind, he is instantly labeled.

Women seem way too quick to judge an individual man, let alone all men. Maybe when they stop believing that they are ultra special creatures to whom the guy has to be worthy, they will get more out of the relationship. Remember the saying, the more you want, the less you’ll get, and the same goes vice versa. So, to you ladies, there is something for you to think about!


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Does anyone else have trouble remembering important dates? Not necessarily the dates of holidays, but those that take place within relationships. Personally, I have trouble with both! It’s not that I try NOT to remember, I simply don’t always remember! And I always pay for it in the end.

Take the time I forgot my girlfriends birthday! All hell broke loose on that momentous day! And I guess, rightfully so! I just forgot. I’ve also been known to forget which day is Valentine’s Day! And you can imagine the massacre that resulted from that! Lol

I’ve tried calendars, my computer, and various electronic planners, but somehow, I still forget. Now I’m beginning to see a pattern emerging. But then again, I have been known to come to work on Thanksgiving, and forget my own birthday! Awful as that sounds, it happens to be true.

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No, not the Doublemint gum commercial, but the Twins. Every mans fantasy, I’m sure. My mind wanders to one of the Austin Powers movies, where he is confronted (and comforted!) by twin oriental gals. How great would it be to have the opportunity to date a brace of twins! It sure would fulfill one of my fantasies, a major one at that! I wonder if I could handle it. That I don’t know, but I sure would love to give it a try if presented with the opportunity!

These are probably dreams (or nightmares). They exist only in my fantasy where they are fulfilling (duh!), outrageous, and remain as my ultimate fantasy, where they probably belong. I am curious as to whether anyone has ever actually had the opportunity to live this fantasy, and if so, has was it. This dirty old man wants to know!

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I have gone out with numerous single women, many of whom I have met through the wonders of modern technology. The World Wide Web and its numerous venues for online dating and more recently a miss directed text message in which I was able to give some wonderful dating advice to a young woman; (who then had little problem with texting me her photo), is a great method of initially meeting people.

There is however one fly in the proverbially Internet dating ointment, you cannot tell an individual’s personal hygiene habits from behind a computer screen! There are many things that may be revealed in a real life encounter that modern technology cannot easily pick up, even on the best flat screen computer monitor. I mean really, I understand that plucking out protruding nose hairs is time consuming work, but there are just some things that are worth the effort. The sense of smell, is something so vital to really getting to know someone, and until smellivision is discovered, it’s a crap shoot until that first in person meeting.

Have you ever danced with a woman to a slow, classic beat, held her hand tight in yours and then took a long deep smell of her hair? This can be one of the most erotic moments on a date. Now picture that same scenario, but when you take her hand in yours her nails look like she uses the metal grinder at the local auto repair shop for manicures, and that scent in her hair is actually residue from her morning job at the Fulton fish market! These observations are not meant to upset anyone, they are merely pet peeves of mine.

I guess the reason I am so concerned about online dating and personal hygiene, is because I feel it’s misrepresenting yourself if you come off over the Internet as suave and sophisticated, yet you believe taking a shower is optional, not mandatory. If you don’t take pride in your overall appearance and cleanliness, I wonder what else in your life do you not care much about. It a lot like the girl who beat me out for valedictorian in high school, Mary Jane Stemkowski, whose armpits smelled so bad that to this day I still believe the teachers gave her A’s for not raising her hand in class. And please, do not misconstrue, this goes equally for men!!

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I am curious as to who dates on the rebound more, guys or gals. While the initial breakup and following week(s) hurts both equally, who is quicker to start dating sooner? I know that I, after about a week, sans girlfriend, gets a little voice in my head saying, get off your ass and start looking! Truth be known, it is just a thought, but in a weird way, a comforting one. It provides a glimmer of hope, a dim light at the end of the proverbial tunnel, a possible future. But, in all honesty, I just can’t get back on the horse right after a breakup. It usually takes me a month or two just to be the flirty guy I am! What I’m saying is that I don’t date on the rebound, it’s not in my nature to do so. This is probably because I am always selective in whom I make a girlfriend.

This being said, because I have/(had) feelings for the girl, it takes time to heal the emotional wounds that were inflicted. But many people are the type who can get right back on the horse after being thrown. They are rebound daters. Unfortunately, it is the people that they meet soon after a break up, that get hurt or used. They are on the ass end of the horse, and you know what comes out that end! Lol

Those on the other side want love, caring, a possible relationship. But they are also a whipping post in those relations. They have to listen to the others reasons and justifications for breakup, along with all the hostilities that they become burdened with.

Breakups are rough on both sides, if they had any meaning. In time the wounds heal enough that people are on the mend. Once this occurs, “normal” dating can resume.

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Dream Girls


In our never ending quest to be happy, many men spend a great deal of time and effort searching for their ideal woman. Knowing what type of female we are attracted to is not all that difficult but knowing where to find such a person can be very frustrating indeed. What it all boils down to is being in the right place at the right time, and knowing what to do and how to act accordingly! Basically timing and action.

The first place that comes to mind in an attempt to find a dream girl would be the dance clubs and bars. Going out to a night club can be lots of fun especially if you are a good dancer, but it can also be intimidating if you are shy and do not like crowds. And potentially embarrassing if you don’t know how to dance.

Bars are another option but if you’re not much of a drinker, you probably won’t have a very good time and do you really think you will find your dream girl in a bar? A girl, yea, but your dream girl? .. probably not! The bar scene though is a good place to explore, but it is more ideally suited for younger people, those guys and gals who are in their 20’s who are first learning about the art of dating, and for men who are going through the “conquer” stage. A few glasses of vodka and everyone is ideal! Till the next day! lol

The beach can be a great place to meet women if you are not bashful about approaching a total stranger half naked. Even if you are unable to connect with an attractive female, at least you can work on your tan while enjoying the outdoors. Of course, being half naked and having an overhanging beer belly is not condusive to picking up a pretty girl.

Supermarkets can be another way of meeting someone but a guy can look very foolish hanging out in front of the produce section with a big smile on his face hoping for the right woman to walk by. However, this option can work if you are a divorced male with a totally bewildered look on his face, and gets the sympathy and compassion of a similarly divorced female. Kind of like a pity pickup! Lol

Going to parties or some kind of social gathering can be a great way to meet people if you have the good fortune of being invited to such an event. Parties can be lots of fun and you never know who you might run into it. But in these situations you must be bold, show confidence, be assertive. Or, look for the wallflowers and just strike up a conversation. It works!! The main thought to keep in mind is that your ideal female is out there but she isn’t coming to you. You have to make the effort to find her.

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An Ex is an Ex because


How many of you out there get along with your ex? That many, huh! Well, I happen to be one who does. Friends of mine ask me all the time how I do it, or better yet, how I deal with it! It is actually quite simple. I learned that you can not change a persons behavior. Only they can make the change. If it is a behavior that annoys me to great extent, I sever the relationship of boyfriend/girlfriend. As the title of this post says, “An ex is an ex because”.

There are a myriad of reasons to break up in a relationship. Some make perfect sense, others come from the heat of the moment. Some say I don’t burn bridges. This is very true of me. What’s the point of fighting over something that has already happened and caused the breakup? That part is over and done with. It’s a small world, and I’ve chance encountered many ex girlfriends. However, in all honesty, I have never re-dated a past girlfriend. The things that she or I did to each other to cause the breakup would still be present, and would only cause another round(s) of drama. Life goes on!

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